After finding a site, adding pictures, and getting your profile ready, now you’re ready to start searching. Click, swipe, and work your way through the portal until you find a match. Once you get one, then you send the first message. How do you do it? We’re so glad you asked!
As long as you look at the person’s profile ahead of time, the first message should be easy. Pick an aspect of their profile and talk about it.
“You like to go cooking? I love trying new recipes. What’s your favorite thing to cook?”
As you can see, talk about something you saw in their profile for the first message. The text on their profile or their pictures are both great places to start. Do you see why using the right pictures is so important? It helps as great conversation starters.
Lastly, don’t be shy. In online dating, there’s no place for it. If you’re using the dating portal, then everyone knows that the goal is to flirt and find a partner. All messages are welcome!
First Message Do’s
- Read your match’s profile before sending message
- Be real
- Get creative
- Be honest
- “Just do it” like Nike
First Message Don’ts
- Sending the typical “Hi”, “Hello” and nothing else
- Asking questions about things that can be answered by looking at the profile
- Being dishonest
- Acting like you’re shy