Why are serious dating apps more appropriate than Tinder when looking for love in NZ?
Hook-up apps like Tinder serve a purpose, and that simply cannot be denied. User-friendly, easy to get to grips with, and with a large population of eager singles (as well as plenty of those who may not be as single as they appear…), it has taking the fast-paced online dating world by storm. However, there comes a time when a brief encounter or a night of fun simply isn’t enough, and you find yourself wanting something a little (or a lot) more serious.
When it comes to searching for a long-term relationship in New Zealand, the looks-based approach that Tinder uses isn’t necessarily going to yield the best results. More serious dating apps have developed a range of techniques to really get to the heart of their NZ subscribers, and use psychologically accurate personality tests and algorithms to ensure that if you sign up, you’ll be sent profiles of those which match with your character. This reduces the likelihood of being matched up with someone who is seeking something different from your own desires, and it should also filter out time-wasters. On top of this, more serious dating apps and sites require you to go through an often lengthy sign-up process, meaning the members who end up with fully filled-out profiles are those who are really more committed, and thus more likely to be looking for something serious and long lasting. Perfect!
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How to gain success using more serious dating apps in New Zealand
So, you’ve decided that the fast-and-furious world of Tinder dating is not for you, and you’re ready to settle down into something a little more serious. Well done - you’ve taken a big step towards achieving a level of happiness which will go above and beyond anything you can find via facebook dating, or swiping left and right without finding what you long for.
However, more serious dating apps do take a little more forethought, a more subtle and considered approach, and will require you to be a little more patient and perseverant than Tinder does. Let’s take a look at some of the key differences between the dating app styles, and some of the ways to ensure you find some candidates for the role of ‘love of your life’.
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As everybody knows, Tinder NZ is based on the idea that first impressions and physical appearance are the most important thing in finding a partner. This app uses your Facebook profile picture (which is why some people refer to these sorts of apps as ‘facebook dating’) and social media information in order to set up a quick profile, thus allowing you to get swiping almost instantly. It’s the ‘fast food’ of the online dating world - quick, convenient, cheap, and yet perhaps not a particularly fulfilling, or even an emotionally healthy way to approach dating. Indeed, if you’re looking for love, you’re going to really struggle with Tinder - it is populated mostly by those looking for a couple of fun dates and some easy sex encounters.
More serious dating sites which require you to sign up, such as be2 NZ and EliteSingles NZ on the other hand, are designed with people like you in mind. While physical appearance is always going to play a role in the search for love, these sites put a far greater emphasis on personality and interests. As such, they require you to complete a very thorough personality test (which often take a considerable amount of time to complete in full!), which not only help you get in touch with genuinely interested potential partners, they also have the added benefit of putting off scammers and bots, too.
How to put together a winning dating profile
One of the main keys to finding success on a more serious dating site involves you putting together a great profile, which is going to catch the eyes of your potential dates. Your profile should show off everything which makes you unique and exciting, and it’s important to be as honest as possible, while also highlighting all of your selling points.
Make sure that you fill in your profile information as completely as possible. Half-empty profiles are proven to be a real turn-off; people immediately question what it is you have to hide when they come across a series of empty boxes! Talk about your hobbies and interests, your goals and ambitions, and some information about what you seek in a potential partner.
When it comes to choosing a picture, go for those which show you looking happy rather than attempting to appear seductive. Include a decent face shot as well as a full body picture (and do yourself a favour: use recent photos, not those from when you were 19 years old!), as well as one or two showing you doing something you love. Holiday photos are great, as are those which show you enjoying your favourite pastimes. Avoid group photos, as well as images of yourself with an ex partner.
That all-important first message
Once you’ve got a great dating profile put together, you’re ready to start connecting with other singles on the site! Remember - these sites aren’t like Tinder dating, so don’t leap in with some suggestion of jumping into bed together! Start by finding a profile of someone who looks interesting to you, and introduce yourself before striking up a conversation on something you’ve seen on their profile. Do they have photos of themselves enjoying a particular hobby? Mention how it looks interesting, and how you’d love to know more about it. People love to talk about their passions, so this is a great way to get things started. Be respectful and kind, keep the messages short and sweet (nobody wants to read your life story as a first message!) and keep things fun, flirty, open and light-hearted. Follow this advice, and you should be able to set up a date within no time.
Going on your first non tinder date
So, you’ve sent a few messages back and forth with someone you like on your dating site - it’s time go on your first non tinder date!
You’ll be able to discuss the finer details of your date via the messages on your dating app. However, we’d always advise to keep the first date relatively light-hearted and pressure-free. A light meal somewhere relatively informal is always good - it gives you the opportunity to sit together and have a really good chat (something movie dates don’t really allow for), and the public setting is a great way of ensuring you are less inhibited and more comfortable, allowing you to truly be yourself. Make sure you are polite, sincere, and respectful, and who knows what might happen?
After the first date is over, make sure you set up the next one as soon as possible. If the other person isn’t interested in meeting again, don’t be disheartened - it’s always better to be honest at this stage and not to be strung along on a series of unwanted dates. Furthermore, there are thousands of profiles still to look through, and your new love is bound to be somewhere in there!