eHarmony NZ: Test reports, hints and experiences with eHarmony in New Zealand

eHarmony can be described as an online matchmaking service promising to connect you with a select few number of compatible singles who are both looking to have a serious monogamous relationship and also whose personality meshes very highly with your own, increasing the likelihood of a successful relationship.

Compared to less serious sites like Tinder, eHarmony users+ are typically in the 30s range, according to eHarmony-founder, octogenarian Neil Clark Warren. The number has decreased only slightly. 30 is considered a great age for settling down.

eHarmony is very well known around the world, including New Zealand. Founder Neil Clark Warren came up with eHarmony after spending time as both a psychologist and relationship advice author. Despite success, Warren and his company have been criticized and sued for its lack of inclusivity. However, even if you aren’t a conservative Christian like the company’s founder, his method is still believed to be one of the best ways to locate an ideal partner.

eHarmony has been known for matching people up perfectly. Marriages seem to be quite common for users. Success is partially attributed to weeding out many people during the registration process along with the focus on being serious about the relationship.

No, there is no shortcut way to use the site at all unless you register first. The hour-long registration process is the only way to view your matches.

Yes, it is possible to use without paying; however, it’s advised not to use the site if you never want to have to pay for anything. Once you see the site is worth the extra money, then you’ll save yourself from disappointment by trying to be cheap.

The questionnaire, creating your profile, and seeing bios of your matches doesn’t cost you a thing. However, you have to pay to see even a blurred photo. You can send little emoticons and send prewritten questions to matches, but you can’t send anything personal or of your own hand. If you’re not willing to pay, there’s no point in even contacting anyone because you can’t say anything back to them.

eHarmony accepts both credit cards and Paypal to fund subscriptions.

Yes, you can use Paypal and pay directly from your bank account if you don’t want to use your credit card.

No, they do not, and the minimum subscription is 1 month. However, there is a perk referred to as eHarmony free communication weekends. Essentially, after sending x amount of predetermined questions, then you unlock one free personal message. Unfortunately, you cannot read the response unless you subscribe to the platform. Therefore, it’s almost pointless to even try it. You should not rely on free weekends to connect with members long term; however, it’s a good way to test it out.

eHarmony customer care can be reached via an online form. They currently do not have a customer service hotline number in New Zealand.

Success on eHarmony goes back to the profile. Make sure you take your time when filling out the questionnaire and select nice pictures for your profile. Reach out to matches as soon as you finish registration. Don’t try to be macho and wait—everyone is essentially in desperate need of a good relationship.

Your chances of success on eHarmony are very high. Essentially, only a handful of people are using the site anyway, and you have science on your site to match you up with the perfect partner.

While making your way through the questionnaire, you can simply press the oops button at the bottom left hand corner to correct your answer. However, retaking the whole test requires you to contact customer service who will only reset “under certain circumstances.“ Search settings can also be changed yourself if necesary.

Because eHarmony is costly, there are plenty of ways to get discounts on the total cost. The promotional code on the eHarmony site brings the price per month on the 12-month membership. eHarmony also has gift vouchers 3-month membership which you could easily send to yourself. Additionally, sites like Groupon and Retailmenot also have voucher coupons, so you never have to pay full price for eHarmony.

The pricing of eHarmony is odd, but they tend to look something like this: $59.95 / Month $39.95 / Month (3 month plan) $29.95 / Month (6 month plan) $19.95 / Month (12 month plan regular price)

On the surface, there are very, very few if any fakes on eHarmony in New Zealand. It’s too much trouble to go through a super long questionnaire and pay an expensive subscription fee when there are other dating portals that are not as strict. The only red flag we saw was fake-looking profiles which are probably users that weren't willing to pay full price for a membership.

It’s hard to spot fakes on eHarmony, but your best weapon is to send test messages to a person’s profile page. If their response is a pre-written eHarmony message, then they probably didn’t pay for their membership and can’t talk back to you. That means that your first message should never be a pre-written one or others will think the same thing about you.

Instead of trying to compete with Tinder and other popular app dating portals, eHarmony simply made access to eHarmony tools available to Apple, Android and Windows members on the go. They can access their profile, see matches, send messages, and upload photos.

Canceling your eHarmony subscription is as easy as deactivating auto renewals in your eHarmony account. Go to Account Settings> Billing>Cancel My Subscription and then follow the given instructions from there. You can even get a refund if you cancel within three days of purchasing your initial subscription.

Deleting an account on eHarmony is also simple. Go to Account Settings> Billing>Close Account. Ensure that your subscription is cancelled first!

If you see the following message-- We're sorry – we are unable to find the right type of people for you—don’t feel bad because you’re one of the 20 percent of the population whose test gets rejected. This lets you know that you probably shouldn’t spend that much money on the site anyway since it’s not a good fit for you. It can, however, be frustrating to see after spending an hour or so filling out a questionnaire. While eHarmony insists that it’s them and not you, that may not be factual. We postulate that being either homosexual or severely depressed is a surefire way to get rejected, but it’s hard to say for certain. Other things like lack of religion, inconsistent answers, and being uninterested in monogamous relationships can also be the reason for the being turned away.