After a first date, you may be wondering what to do next. Message them first? Ask for another date? What should you do?
Contrary to popular belief, there are no right or wrong answers here. What’s right for you may not be what’s right for someone else. You have no clue what’s on the other person’s mind as far as if they’re even still interested or have any feelings for you. Could it be that they’re just a bit shy?
Too many variables, and no right answer. We will say this: don’t give in to old-fashioned rituals. It’s a bunch of bologna to think that the woman should wait to hear back from the man before making a move.
Some men are shy, and may take their time writing a woman back. Others are what we call “hunters” and like to make sure that they always have the upper hand when it comes to flirting and online dating. In this case, the women probably shouldn’t send the first message after a date.
From the female perspective, you have some that are independent and enjoy taking things into her own hands. In the same breath, there are other women who enjoy being chased. How do you know which you got?
To be blunt: you won’t know until afterwards. Hence why this time period is tricky to get through. Don’t sweat it. Follow your instincts, intuition, and any other tricks you have up your sleeve. Let your heart do what it needs to do.
Listening to your instincts will usually lead you to the choice that you can live with. It’s whatever you feel the most comfortable doing. If you end up doing wrong, then at least you felt comfortable enough to do it. Staying true to yourself is critical in locating your perfect match!