Why everyone is flocking to dating apps for finding love in New Zealand
We live in a fast-paced world, and going out and meeting people in the hope that you might find love is not easy nowadays. It’s time consuming, difficult for those who consider themselves shy, and can leave you feeling seriously disheartened when the rejections inevitably come along.
As such, it’s no real surprise that dating apps have taken off in a big way. They allow you to browse NZ singles’ profiles from the comfort of your home, send messages while commuting to work, and if and when you approach someone virtually who isn’t interested - there’s really no problem, because you know you have thousands of other people just waiting to hear from you! These dating apps are ideal for finding love in other ways, too - not just because of their ease of use. They use psychological tests and surveys to ensure your profile reaches those of similar interests and personality types, and the more well-known apps are experts at filtering out fakes and time-wasters, too, meaning your chances will be higher than ever!
Top tips and top pics for finding love in New Zealand
While we’re sure you’re more than capable of finding success on a dating site, everybody could do with a few tips from the experts! We’ve trawled through these sites over and over again, and have come up with some great advice to make sure you find the one you’re looking for. Read on to see for yourself!
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Completion is the key
Serious dating apps such as be2 or EliteSingles work on the basis that their subscribers provide as much honest information as possible, in order for their algorithms to find their perfect match from tens of thousands of members.
As such, if you are seriously seeking a relationship, it’s really important that you are as honest and thorough as you can be when it comes to filling in their personality tests and questionnaires. Most NZ dating sites won’t allow you to take those questionnaires a second time (unless you write to them directly and ask), so make sure you’re sincere and thoughtful with your answers - they’ll help you in your quest for finding love, and will seek out those ideal matches!
This sense of completion is also highly important when it comes to filling out your profile information, too. A well completed profile is far more attractive to your potential dates, and they’ll be able to browse it and consider you as a person before writing to you, or making a connection. You’ll have the opportunity to explain all about your hobbies and interests, passions and exactly what you’re seeking from a relationship, so make sure you take that opportunity and run with it!
How to write the perfect message for finding a relationship in New Zealand
Remember: you’re looking and hoping for a serious relationship, not a one-night stand! Your first messages to somebody should resemble those of someone with charm and respect, not of someone seeking a quick fling! Making references to sex from the beginning is a definite ‘no’, and while some people may respond positively to such messages, it’s unlikely you’re going to find true love with such a person.
Your first message should also not be too long. A couple of sentences should suffice, and it should contain at least one question - this will prompt the recipient to reply… and before you know it, you can start a conversation which will hopefully lead to a date. Long messages in which you write up your whole autobiography can be a real turn off and a bore. Keep it short and snappy, funny, witty and charming, and you should be onto a winner. Don’t be disheartened if you don’t receive a reply, as there are thousands of other people to contact. On the same note, people really appreciate quick replies which show that you’ve read their message properly, so don’t leave it too long before writing back!
How to set up a date
In order to find love in New Zealand, you’ll first have to meet your prospective partner face to face. We’d normally advise setting up a date fairly quickly after you’ve established a conversation online: there are plenty of other people out there who may well beat you to it, otherwise!
Casually suggest to your online paramour that you’re interested in taking things a little further, and would love to meet them in the flesh. If they’re hesitant, don’t panic - it’s normal to not necessarily want to move out of a comfort zone. However, if they dally for too long, maybe it’s better to move onto the next potential partner.
If they agree, choose somewhere within easy reach for both of you. Public places such as casual restaurants or bars are ideal - you won’t be completely alone, and you’ll be able to chat over a drink or a meal and see whether that spark you found on the dating site translates to real life.
Getting that all-important second date
If your first date has gone really well, it shouldn’t be too much of a problem setting up the next one. Call or write to your date, letting them know what a lovely time you had, and how much you’d love to see them again. If they respond positively, then set a time and a place, and go for it!
If the date hasn’t gone so well, you have two options. You can either give it another go, and see whether or not the spark simply is a slow one to manifest, or you can politely let your date know that you feel it’s best to continue your search for a relationship without them. As with every step of the way, honesty is so important - after all, it isn’t polite or respectful to string someone along (who, you must remember, is also keen on finding love) without the intention of starting a relationship.